Three Ways to Connect to Love

How is your heart?

I can imagine that you have had some big feelings come up with recent events happening around the world. Have you been experiencing fear, sadness, powerlessness, or anger? These feelings make so much sense. When these big feelings come up, it is easy to slide into our trauma responses of fight, flight, freeze or fawn. I've definitely noticed myself going from freeze to flight, and I have no shame admitting that. My goal isn't to never have triggers, but to be able to notice when they come up. 

Do you know what the opposite of fear is? 

It's Love. 

Today I want to remind you of the importance of connecting to love. 

Here are a few of my favorite ways to connect to love. 

If your nervous system is feeling especially dysregulated, you may want to take a few moments and practice grounding before connecting to love. That can look like taking some deep breaths, walking barefoot on the ground, or looking around the room to find objects that signal to you that you are safe. 

1. Give yourself space to think of a time when you felt really loved.

It doesn't have to be something extravagant, but a moment where you noticed that you felt loved. A moment I'm remembering is when my friend Andrea told me to go and cut sunflowers from her sunflower patch. I felt so seen and cared for and I noticed excitement going through my body. Just taking time to remember that moment, I'm noticing my shoulders soften and tension being released from my body. 

2. Another way to connect to love is to get quiet and ask, "Unconditional Love, how do you feel about me?"

Let yourself notice what happens in your body. What is happening as you allow yourself to pause and listen? How long can you stay in this place? If it's thirty seconds, that's great. One minute is even better. Each time you do this exercise, try to extend the amount of time you can sit with unconditional love.

3. Taking time to write down allllll of the things you are grateful for is an excellent way to connect to love.

Because our mind cannot focus on positive and negative information at the same time, practicing gratitude can connect you to love and push out those feelings of fear and anxiety. 

After doing these activities, you may not feel a hundred percent more loved, and that's okay. If you can get to feeling one to five percent more loved, that's amazing! Let yourself be realistic when taking note of how you are feeling in your body, and practice doing these activations as many times a day as you like. 

Each time you take time to connect to love, you are filling that resource bank to come back to when you need a reminder of how loved you are. 

Take a moment before moving on to the next thing and check in. How did I experience this? What am I feeling in my body?

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